Today was the first day of term 3 and we held a curriculum day. One session was devoted to our Guest Speaker, Chris Daicos, who spoke about optimism and pessimism. This resonated with me. I have slipped into pessimistic thinking in the past and know many kids and adults who do too. I realised how defeatist, depressing and what a waste of energy it is to catastrophise all the time. I loved the quote :
 
“Engaging in negative self talk is one of the most expensive hobbies you can have.” – R Crawford
 
Pessimistic thinking affects your health, outlook on life, happiness, career and relationships. We need to choose to manage our mind and develop a positive response to events by using strategies such as self talk. Blaming other people and acting helpless is not productive and does not help you solve the problem. A more productive use of time is to catch and stop your thinking , generate positive alternatives and solutions and then actively  decatastrophise your thoughts. Easier said than done but makes a massive difference to your wellbeing and stress.
 
I also liked the acronym GOMO – Get over it and move on!
 
Far more healthy than living in the past and dwelling on things. Also, ask yourself “does it matter?” In the grand scheme of things, is the event really the end of the world and should you give it the power it has over you? Another question to ask yourself – is the situation permanent or will it end? This can help you see your way through to a more positive time, rather than being overwhelmed by endless negative emotions.
 
The other key point was that pessimists don’t OWN any positives or negatives. It’s always SOMEONE ELSE’S FAULT things went wrong or a temporary fluke/someone else’s doing if things go well.
 
We need to learn that is is OUR response to an event that determines our wellbeing and future happiness. We are in charge of our own response to events.
 
As a teacher and leader, I need to influence kids and colleagues to positively manage their response to events and learn to stop and shift my own pessimistic thinking to better manage my own stress and wellbeing.
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